by Barbara | Apr 6, 2015 | Celebrating Life, Fitness, Health, The Remarkable Files
I am really honoured to share Julia’s uplifting and encouraging story with you. Julia is an amazing woman of truly remarkable strength who has triumphed over cancer. Julia is passionate about supporting organisations who do so much for others facing the same battle with cancer. Be inspired, be encouraged as you read what Julia shares:
Tell us about the Red Sky Ride that you’ve participated in:
So as you know, myself and 22 other like-minded (some say crazy) people, embark on a 1,000km bike ride around the South West of WA. We train together each weekend starting in September and the ride takes place in February. It’s six months of hard training but I love it and we all become a close knit team.
What made you decide to do the Red Sky Ride:
Back in August 2008 I noticed that something didn’t feel quite right in my right breast, so I went to my GP for a check-up. From that initial consultation it became a whirl-wind of appointments: firstly a mammogram, then an ultrasound and fine needle biopsy and then finally a core biopsy of the breast.[/vc_column_text][vc_column_text disable_pattern=”true” align=”left” margin_bottom=”0″]The results came back that I had multiple carcinomas and I was given the news that because of the number of lumps I would have to have a mastectomy. After this news sunk in I decided that “just in case” I would prefer to have a bilateral mastectomy as I didn’t want to find cancer in my left breast at a later stage.
Within a matter of weeks I underwent a number of other tests to confirm that the cancer was contained to the breast before undergoing surgery. I ended up only taking 5 weeks off work, and was told that the operation had been a success and that it was a “no brainer.” I would not need chemo or radiation.
However, one year later at my annual check-up it was found that there was a lump where the core biopsy had been taken (which I had put down to scar tissue), but it was in fact a Grade 3 cancer that had seeded in the tract site.
One of those million to one occurrences, but it happened to me. I was immediately booked in to get the lump removed and within a fortnight from the time of my operation I commenced 6 months of chemotherapy (4 cycles of AC and 3 cycles of CMEC for those of you who know what this all means) and 6 weeks of radiation therapy.
I remember now that I have never found anything so confronting in my life as walking into the Ivy Suite at St John of God hospital and seeing the row of armchairs, with people of all ages and walks of life hooked up to IV drips getting their treatment.I’ll quickly digress here and tell you how my children, aged 6 and 9 at the time, reacted to me telling them that I had cancer. My 6 year old daughter was really concerned that I would lose all my hair, whilst my 9 year old son was really interested in the concept of “chemo brain”, asking me if I gave him his weekly pocket money was there a chance that I would forget I had already paid him and he might get paid it again!!
Anyway, it was at one of my first visits to St John of God Hospital that I was introduced to the SolarisCare centre. This became a haven when I came in for my chemo treatments or the weekly pic-line cleaning, not only to just sit down and get a cup of tea or read some of the literature available, but also to take advantage of many of the wonderful “free” treatments on offer. And I certainly enjoyed trying out all of those treatments from the more conventional massage, acupuncture and reflexology to Reiki and Bowen therapy. The therapists were all wonderful people who put me at ease and made me feel better during this trying time in my life.
I think that organisations like Solariscare are extremely valuable, and I think it is fantastic that this is a WA initiative that other States are considering. Do you know that since my chemo treatment Solariscare is now allowed to offer their therapies in the chemo room… imagine that, whilst undergoing chemo you could have someone giving you a reflexology massage or music therapy! I really think that other States and countries should adopt this “alternative therapy” view – as you need to deal with the emotional side of cancer, not just the medical side.[/vc_column_text][vc_column_text disable_pattern=”true” align=”left” margin_bottom=”0″]I was very fortunate that my employers, the RAC, were very supportive during my treatment and held my job for me until I considered I was well enough to return to work, so when my treatment finished I moved across to NSW with my 2 children for 6 months to recuperate with my parents.
As my parents lived in a small country town in Northern NSW I decided that in order to make friends and meet people I needed to get involved in some kind of activity. I found out that the local bike shop ran social group rides on the weekend. I have always enjoyed cycling. In fact, I believe it was my good fitness level that held me in good stead whilst going through my treatment. Whilst I was initially knocked around a bit by the treatment, I didn’t suffer as much as I expected.
So off I went to the bike shop one Saturday morning and got hooked immediately. Not only was it a great way of meeting people, but it was good for my body and soul to get physically active again; and like all good bike riders enjoy that well-earned cup of coffee and a chat after a ride.
I’ll quickly digress here and tell you how my children, aged 6 and 9 at the time, reacted to me telling them that I had cancer. My 6 year old daughter was really concerned that I would lose all my hair, whilst my 9 year old son was really interested in the concept of “chemo brain”, asking me if I gave him his weekly pocket money was there a chance that I would forget I had already paid him and he might get paid it again!!
Anyway, it was at one of my first visits to St John of God Hospital that I was introduced to the SolarisCare centre. This became a haven when I came in for my chemo treatments or the weekly pic-line cleaning, not only to just sit down and get a cup of tea or read some of the literature available, but also to take advantage of many of the wonderful “free” treatments on offer. And I certainly enjoyed trying out all of those treatments from the more conventional massage, acupuncture and reflexology to Reiki and Bowen therapy. The therapists were all wonderful people who put me at ease and made me feel better during this trying time in my life.
I think that organisations like Solariscare are extremely valuable, and I think it is fantastic that this is a WA initiative that other States are considering. Do you know that since my chemo treatment Solariscare is now allowed to offer their therapies in the chemo room… imagine that, whilst undergoing chemo you could have someone giving you a reflexology massage or music therapy! I really think that other States and countries should adopt this “alternative therapy” view – as you need to deal with the emotional side of cancer, not just the medical side.[/vc_column_text][vc_column_text disable_pattern=”true” align=”left” margin_bottom=”0″]I was very fortunate that my employers, the RAC, were very supportive during my treatment and held my job for me until I considered I was well enough to return to work, so when my treatment finished I moved across to NSW with my 2 children for 6 months to recuperate with my parents.[/vc_column_text][vc_column_text disable_pattern=”true” align=”left” margin_bottom=”0″]As my parents lived in a small country town in Northern NSW I decided that in order to make friends and meet people I needed to get involved in some kind of activity. I found out that the local bike shop ran social group rides on the weekend. I have always enjoyed cycling. In fact, I believe it was my good fitness level that held me in good stead whilst going through my treatment. Whilst I was initially knocked around a bit by the treatment, I didn’t suffer as much as I expected.
So off I went to the bike shop one Saturday morning and got hooked immediately. Not only was it a great way of meeting people, but it was good for my body and soul to get physically active again; and like all good bike riders enjoy that well-earned cup of coffee and a chat after a ride.
When I returned to Perth I immediately joined a lovely group of cyclists at Bikeforce Joondalup and have ridden with them regularly ever since, making some wonderful friends, keeping fit and entering into a number of events around Perth and WA with them.
What does the future hold?
It made me feel very proud and honoured to be approached by Solariscare to become their Ride Ambassador for the Red Sky Ride held in February 2014.
I participated in the Red Sky Ride again this year.[/vc_column_text][vc_column_text disable_pattern=”true” align=”left” margin_bottom=”0″]Having been through my cancer journey I think this is a great opportunity for me to give back to those that helped me along the way. Solariscare is a wonderful organisation and I would like to urge you all to support the good work they do.[/vc_column_text][vc_column_text disable_pattern=”true” align=”left” margin_bottom=”0″]I have now been in remission for nearly 5 years and cycle around 4 times a week, run a couple of times a week and walk whenever possible. I am probably fitter now than I was when I was in my 20’s and 30’s!!
What have you learnt about yourself through your journey?
That I am stronger than I thought I was – and that positive thinking is a powerful thing.
What wisdom would you share with others who may be facing health challenges?
Ask lots of questions, get sound advice from both health professionals and others who may have also gone through a similar challenge, get a second opinion and then look at your options.
How do you think each of us can live the fullest life possible?
Wow, that’s a tough one, but life is a gift so, I would say by:
- being present in the now;
- grabbing opportunities when you are presented with them, even if they are outside of your comfort zone;
- valuing and spending time with family & friends; and
- not taking yourself too seriously!!
A Bit of Fun
People who inspire you:
People who have gone out of their comfort zone and achieved amazing things, sometimes despite the circumstances that they were dealt with in life, for example Nick Vujicic, born with no arms or legs but such a positive, inspirational person http://www.attitudeisaltitude.com/about-nick-his-story
Happiest place:
Anywhere with my kids – I have especially happy memories of a trip the 3 of us took to Queenstown skiing. To this day we still relive the good times on that holiday. And of course… always on the bike, enjoying the camaraderie of fellow cyclists and the good chin wag and coffee afterwards!! 
Biggest passion in life:
Besides being mum to Jack and Katie, I would say cycling and eating (along with a decent red wine!), especially in the company of good friends!! The cycling community is amazing. I formed excellent friendships in Perth through cycling with Bikeforce Joondalup, then when I moved to NSW last year and tried out the local shop ride in Ballina with Transition Cycles, I was welcomed into their group and have made great friends already.
Best bit of advice you have ever received:
Laugh loud, laugh often.
I must admit my kids and I have developed our own “funny” sense of humour and in-jokes, which I think keeps me young
Most inspiring book you’ve read:
I do enjoy an inspiration read, like Janine Shepherd’s “Never tell me Never.” It’s a true story about a cyclist who was hit by a truck on a training exercise and her remarkable recovery. Whilst I was going through chemo and radiation I read Lance Armstrong’s books (sometimes in the wee small hours of the morning when I couldn’t sleep) and got inspiration from his positive outlook towards his cancer journey.
Best light-bulb moment:
Taking up cycling after my chemo and radiation!! I look back now at the $50 bike that I bought off a friend and how I have gradually progressed with my cycling over the years (not to mention the bike upgrades since!).
The Red Sky Ride is a fine example of a group of riders from all walks of life, joined together by a common cause – most riders have had a family member affected and/or lost to cancer. They set themselves an amazing personal challenge, then support each other throughout the training and the ride itself, whilst raising a huge amount of money for a really worthwhile organisation. The riders go on to form an alumni that binds them together in the future, and I am looking forward to joining them all again in 2017 for the 10th Year Anniversary Ride!!
Anything is possible… what’s your wish?
A cancer-free world!!
Philosophy you live by:
Treat others as you would like to be treated….
Quote you live by:
A quote that always sticks in my mind is by the tennis player, Pat Cash,
“Tough times don’t last, but tough people do”…
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by Barbara | Apr 1, 2015 | Celebrating Life, The Remarkable Files
Do you remember Melissa’s story of courage?
Here’s Melissa’s update about her transition from living in the city to setting up a vineyard and truffiere in the South West of Western Australia:
The next chapter of our transition ‘from the Jungle to the Vines’ officially began on Friday the 20th March, when the keys were handed over to us for our 85acre property in the beautiful South West of WA.
Our first night on the farm was a grand wake-up call that we were no longer in the city. The first night coincided with the first rains of the season. This was a very exciting time, as our neglected vineyard and land celebrated this life-giving kick-start to the season.
That said, the first rains are also a wake-up call for the Portuguese millipedes.
Now we love our new home on this property, but as is it an un-lined shed, it provided easy access for the thousands of millipedes who decided that the light generated from the premises is all too alluring.
Let me set the scene:
We had a mattress on the floor and a 14 week old Staffie pup. These millipedes crawled through in their thousands. The dog was no help, just curiously observing the incoming invasion. Clint (the other half) was sucking these little critters up into the vacuum cleaner at about the same rate as they were entering. I was ‘Googling’ what we could do to stop our shed from being overrun. As it turns out, light is an attraction, but fire is a good idea because they shy away from dry environments.Clint busily stoked the fire in our little potbelly in the centre of the shed, while I lined the base of the shed with salt. The millipedes laughed at my dismal attempt to hold them back as they crawled over the token white line that ‘shall not be crossed by thy bugs’.
Clint busily stoked the fire in our little potbelly in the centre of the shed, while I lined the base of the shed with salt. The millipedes laughed at my dismal attempt to hold them back as they crawled over the token white line that ‘shall not be crossed by thy bugs’.
The fire in our little potbelly was a great idea, given that it was freezing cold (I know we are only in March…) so we kept this burning as fiercely as we could, and turned off all the lights.
Although a little stressed about the number of millipedes that may seek refuge in our bed as we slept, the three of us (dog included) started to nod off on our mattress. Just as I was drifting off I heard the sound of crackling. As I opened my eyes, I saw embers firing off the pipe of the potbelly, landing all over our shed. The pipe was red-hot and at melting point. Clint was quick to react and started putting the fire out, preventing us from burning down our shed, and possibly our property, on our very first night!
When we woke up in the morning, the millipedes had thankfully started to retreat back into their homes underground (ready for the next evening of fun and adventure in the shed) and our potbelly was no worse for wear.
We are also developing a plan to bring our vineyard back to full glory. We are hoping to save about 40% of the existing vines – however there will be a lot of re-planting and pruning required over the coming months.
(Arguably) the most important activity will be lining our shed, in order to trap the heat in and keep the creepy crawlies out. Thankfully the millipede invasion is a seasonal one, about two weeks during the first rains and then again in Spring. Regardless, I think a lined shed would make our little home a much happier and stress free place.
Lastly, we need to manage our grass and weeds. We are passionate about respecting our land and keeping our property organic (bug spray in the house excluded), so we will be busy fencing away and bringing in some new farmyard friends. Over the coming months we will have help from some cows, chooks and, my personal favourite for blackberry bush control: goats.Although we face many challenges, we are so very excited about setting up our dream home in the country. It is not all hard work though… we did take some time out to have a paddle in our dam and enjoy a home-cooked meal overlooking our new country home.
Although we face many challenges, we are so very excited about setting up our dream home in the country. It is not all hard work though… we did take some time out to have a paddle in our dam and enjoy a home-cooked meal overlooking our new country home.
Here’s a link to Melissa’s Story of Courage, just in case you haven’t read it. Enjoy.
by Barbara | Mar 3, 2015 | Fitness, The Remarkable Files
I have never actually met Michael as he lives in Ireland but he feels like a dear friend to me. The moment I started reading about Michael’s amazing determination and adventures I was captivated. Michael is such a humble family man who has achieved great things through discovering and pursuing his love of swimming. Michael holds the Guinness World Book of Records for underwater endurance swimming; has swum the entire 190km of the River Shannon in Ireland and has written two books about his journey.
Reading Michael’s books, I found them to be filled with deep and meaningful wisdom that could easily be missed. As you read Michael’s story, notice how he states things as a simple matter of fact, when in reality they are very profound. Michael is a truly inspirational and remarkable person.
I’m so excited that he is sharing his experience with us. What I enjoy most about Michael’s story is his determination to never give up. Even when things haven’t quite worked out as he’d hoped, he has another go and succeeds.
Tell us about your swimming and writing pursuits …… how did it all come about?
At the ‘young’ age of 26 I took my first swimming lesson. Eventually, after much huffing and puffing, I succeeded in my endeavours. From there I went on to the life saving class and in due course, after failing the prescribed exams twice, I received my certificate on the third attempt. Now it was onwards and upwards. During a casual conversation I was invited to do a Swimming Instruction Course. Happy with my success at qualifying as a Swimming Instructor, I went on to qualify as a Life-Saving coach as well. For the next 3 to 4 years, several times a week, I walked up and down the pool bank instructing others in various techniques. Whilst I enjoyed what I did immensely, I missed out on my own swimming.
I can thank my good wife Joy for what happened next. She spotted an advert in the evening paper with details of a Diving Course starting within weeks. I needed a break and a new challenge. I joined up and I never looked back. This was a whole new world. Over time I qualified as a Scuba Diver Instructor and was appointed Regional Diving Officer for the Eastern Region. The same scenario as happened with the swimming was occurring all over again. I was continually running courses and sitting on various committees with no time for swimming or diving myself.
I stepped down from the Irish Underwater Council and joined the Viking Sub Aqua Club. That was 36 years ago and I’ve never looked back. It gave me the time and opportunities to do the many hare-brained ideas that I did over the years.
The Guinness Book of Records:
At 37 I attempted and failed at the world underwater endurance record. However, three years later I did succeed on my second attempt and was included in the Guinness Book of Records for my efforts.
Interesting Note:
Michael held the World Underwater Record for some years. A dutch man broke it later with Michael’s assistance and then the event was discontinued for inclusion in the Guinness Book of Records as it was deemed too dangerous.
The North Channel Swim:
For my 50th birthday I completed a swim, non-stop from Ireland to Scotland. Succeeding at this, whet my appetite for long distance swimming. For my 51st I did the same trip in reverse.
Remember how I said at the beginning of this story that Michael makes things sound so simple? The two sentences you’ve just read above make the North Channel Swim sound so simple, but in reality, it is an incredible feat that Michael did twice in two years!
Here are a few facts about the North Channel Swim:
- This 35km swim has been swum by very few people in the world.
- It is considered to be the hardest of all Channel Swims as the water is between 10 – 13 degrees and the currents are incredibly strong!
- This combined with some of the most densely populated jellyfish territory in the world and constant waves up to 8ft tall makes the Irish Channel a very ambitious challenge.
- The North Channel Mull of Galloway is a unique and demanding swim, considered by many to be the ultimate long distance challenge.
- It isn’t just the distance that is the challenge, but more, the variable conditions that you are likely to encounter. These can vary from mirror like conditions to wind force 6 and wave heights in excess of 2 metres.
Source: http://edwardwilliams.org.uk/north_channel
The River Shannon:
At age 60 I swam the longest lake in the British Isles called Lough Neagh, some seventeen miles long. But I wasn’t finished yet.
The one swim that I hold dearest to me is the one that was only ever done in a relay by eight people over four days namely the length of the River Shannon, the longest river in Ireland, and this was my Everest.
At 69 years of age I set off on the journey of my life on the 190 km swim. One week later after 72,631 strokes of my left arm, and great support from a few stalwart friends, it was in the bag, done and dusted. No words could express the feeling of completing that swim and making that dream come true. That, more or less, sums up my swimming career.
Roughly a year or so before the Shannon swim, my daughter happened to call by. Some of my loyal buddies were sitting around the table discussing the preparations and plans that we needed to put in place. She joined us for tea and listened to our conversation. When my co-conspirators left she asked me the following question,”Dad when did you do such and such a swim?” and various other bits. She genuinely didn’t know. This got me thinking. If she didn’t know, the rest of the family probably didn’t know either. They would only see me heading off with my kit bag.
I never talked about what I did. I assumed everyone knew. I decided to pull out all my diaries, copybooks and logbooks just to see what I had recorded. I always jotted down everything as I went along. One of my favourite expressions to any of the family when they would tell me about something important or unusual has always been, “write it down – keep a note of it.” And so the inspiration came to gather it all together.
After many months of sitting in front of the keyboard I realised I had written my life’s adventures. It found its way between two covers and I called it The Passenger Within. That was, to my surprise, my first attempt at writing. Life indeed is full of twists and turns.
What’s your background?
I’m from a large family, one of seven children. We started with little and still have most of it left. At 21 I married Joy, the love of my life. That was 50 years ago this February. We have been blessed with 8 marvellous children, 4 boys and 4 girls.
I’ve spent 40 years in the motor trade, first qualified as a mechanic before moving into the spare parts department. Over the years I ran a number of garages and in that time I was made redundant on no fewer than 5 occasions. For the last 10 years of my working career I worked as a security chauffeur for the Central Bank of Ireland. They were some of the happiest years of my life. I’m now retired.
How do you find the time to do it all? What’s your secret to ‘making time’ for everything?
Time is one commodity that is always in short supply. Something I strongly believe in is: if you want time, make the time; it will not find you. For me, something I really want is worth waiting for, even if it takes years.
What does a typical day look like for you?
I rise between seven and seven thirty and try to get to bed by midnight. At times I wonder how I ever had time for work because there never seems to be enough hours in any given day to do everything.
You took a leap of faith … did you ever wonder if you were doing the right thing?
After the long hours and all the hard work is done and finished, I vanish for a while and spend time silently and alone. This helps me to put everything into perspective. It also helps me to recharge the old battery. I never question, regret or doubt any decision I’ve made.
How did you make it happen?
I surrounded myself with good people. No man is an island.
What was your biggest challenge and how did you overcome it?
The World Record Attempt. After my first attempt – which was a total catastrophe – it took me many months to get over the disappointment. Not one to be beaten, I went back to the drawing board – to the very beginning. Three years later, after much soul searching and mighty long months of hard work, success was mine.
Can you give us some examples of when you’ve had to dig deep and be brave?
In the overall scheme of things, I’m far from brave. I’ve learnt to dig deep when I’ve started to question myself as to what or how did I get this far up the road. When you ask yourself, “Do I need this?”, or when you find yourself doubting your ability, feeling stupid, or losing your confidence, it’s time to dig deep.
I remember digging deep when I nearly froze to death in water temperatures of 5/6 degrees. That was an experience I recall clearly. Another time was during my Underwater Record Attempt when my colleague Stephen aborted after some 26 hours. I was now alone. I questioned myself as to how long would it be before I give up? This is probably where my Yoga and Transcendental Meditation came to the rescue.
What were the tough parts?
Tough Parts? All life is a challenge. I recalled a story about a tiny frog in my book, Is This What, on page 2-3 that sums things up. No matter what side of the road you are born, to get through life you need a certain amount of Perseverance, Determination, and of course endless Patience.
Who is your role model and why?
My parents, God be good to them. They showed and led by example that hard work never killed anybody and that every day is a good day.
What is the best advice you have received?
Many years ago I was confronted with a major problem. Asking my brother for advice, he replied by asking me a question:
“How would you eat an elephant?”
I thought for a moment, then, said “that’s impossible.”
“Wrong,” he said, “a slice at a time.”
Why do you do what you do?
Some people drink, while others smoke or do drugs. My fix is swimming, with a little bit of writing and hopefully passing on my passion to others.
What lessons have you learnt along the way?
Stop over thinking. You’re only creating problems that aren’t there.
What discoveries about yourself have allowed you to realize your passion for swimming and writing?
I have surprised myself on many an occasion. Nothing is impossible if you are prepared to put in the effort and make the necessary sacrifice to go after what you consider worthwhile. 
What keeps you awake at night?
Nothing. I go to bed to sleep. The problems will still be there in the morning.
What gets you up in the morning?
The clock alarm generally. I’m a creature of habit.
How has pursuing writing changed your life?
It hasn’t. I’m still the same old me, as cracked as a bottle.
What’s next for you? What does the future hold?
There is nothing on the radar screen at the moment. However, I’m never short of having an iron in the fire. As always my future is in the good Lord’s hands.
Wisdom for others:
What’s the secret of your success?
I’m more than blessed to have the 3f’s.in my life – Family, Friends, and Faith. If you don’t have the first two with you, you may give up. As for faith, once the flame of faith dies out all other lights begin to dim.
What advice would you give to anyone who isn’t doing what they love?
Pack it in. Give it up. Why torture yourself?
How do you think each of us can live the fullest life possible?
By being honest with ourselves. All life is a challenge. Life is like a game of poker. Whatever hand you have been dealt can be a winner. It’s how we play the hand that’s important.
People who inspire me: My wife Joy, family and friends who have always been there for me with their support and loyalty. The list is endless. They will be forever and always in my thoughts and prayers.
Happiest place: No place like home.
Biggest passion in life: I love jam sandwiches.
Best bit of advice you have ever received:
When you need someone to believe in, look in the mirror.
Most inspiring film: I just love Cowboy Films and all of the James Bond Movies.
Most inspiring book: Unfortunately I’m ashamed to say I’m not a reader.
Best light bulb moment: Every day I put my feet out of the bed, is a wonderful day.
Anything is possible: My motto is: God and I can do this. After all the plotting and planning, I then hand over everything to the good Lord. He has always kept me safe and guided me.
Philosophy I live by: The late Mother Teresa summed it up much better than I could. (See the back cover of book 2 – IS THIS WHAT?). “And above all have respect for others.” 
Quote I live by: Live and let live.
by Barbara | Feb 12, 2015 | Celebrating Life, Fitness, Health, The Remarkable Files
I first saw Gloria and Theresa at the pool where I swim every week. They were quietly going about swimming 50 metre lengths and hard as I tried I just couldn’t keep up with them. After several weeks, we finally got chatting and I found out that they have been swimming together every week for the past 20 years and more. How remarkable! I just couldn’t resist asking them to be part of the Happiness of Pursuits Remarkable Files.
The first thing I asked Gloria and Theresa was their ages. I know, not exactly a question you should ask a woman, but I was so fascinated by how great they looked and how energized they were that I couldn’t help myself. Fortunately, Gloria and Theresa weren’t offended and happily revealed their ages. Theresa is 62 and Gloria is 68. Can you believe it? Amazing. Here’s what these fabulous ladies shared:
How long have you been swimming together:
Gloria:
We started playing squash together late in our squash life. We originally played for two different clubs. Due to injuries we had to find something else to do. Theresa first started swimming and then I joined her. I wasn’t really a great swimmer but we sort of taught ourselves and went from there.
Do you ever get up and feel like you don’t want to go swimming? How do you stay motivated?
Theresa:
Oh yes, there’s many a day where it’s hard to get up and go swimming, especially in Winter when it’s cold and wet and dark but our commitment to each other keeps us going. We each take turns to drive to swimming. So on a Monday I pick up Gloria and on Fridays Gloria picks me up. When holidays come along it all goes to pot but mostly we don’t miss our swims.
Gloria:
We also love the social chit-chat we have together.
What do you like about swimming?
Gloria:
Some days it feels like an effort but once you get in the water you move so easily and you just know you going to feel so much better afterwards. It uses a lot of physical energy but doesn’t feel exhausting. We have found that we can swim after any other activity, whether it’s yoga, walking or a really physical day.
Theresa:
It’s also therapeutic. While you swim you have time to yourself but you’re not alone. You can swim through any anger, frustration or stress you’re experiencing and come away feeling refreshed.
Once you in the water you can just keep going. There’s no pressure, just you and it doesn’t affect anyone else. It’s also great for aches and pains and arthritis.
How important do you think it is to have activities or interests you enjoy?
Theresa:
It’s really important to have something to do that’s just for you. I guess we’ve always been interested in fitness and social get-togethers. When we first starting playing squash it was great to have something social to do and we would take our kids along too and they’d love playing with all the other kids. I also enjoyed playing golf for 20 years, because it was social and kept me active.
Gloria:
We’ve made life long friendships, even although we don’t play squash anymore we still catch up with the girls we played with years ago. We enjoy getting together with our partners and always have a good laugh. Squash was great for the social and the team competitions. I play bridge with some friends. It’s also a great social get-together.
What advice would you give to others about being active?
Theresa:
It’s important to have something to do that’s outside of home and work. Stick up for yourself and take time for yourself. Give yourself permission to have some fun.
Gloria:
You owe it to your partner and family to be a person – not just a wife, husband or parent.
How do you get started finding something to do or join?
Gloria:
When I first came to WA I just rocked up with my kids in the pram to the local Squash club because I needed to do something and it started from there and I met Theresa.
I think that saying “Act, Commit, Belong” is spot on. You have to act by having a go, then commit to doing it and you will find yourself belonging to a group or making a friend. Get involved and have some fun.
Of course, we’ve been fearful of trying something new and not being accepted but generally we’ve found that there is always someone who is welcoming and encouraging.
Theresa:
I was asked by the other Mums in our play group to go along to a YMCA course to learn squash and thought I’d give that ago, so that’s how I started. I remember when I first went along, I kept thinking I’ll never be good enough, without giving myself a chance to discover whether I was or not. Finally, I realized that I was there to learn and so was everyone else! I wouldn’t be doing a course if I knew how to do it already.
There are lots of courses advertised in the local community paper, just choose something you think you may like and have a go.
Final thoughts:
Theresa:
Life is Short! As you get older you realize your own mortality. Don’t waste time, do fun things now. Time flies, make the most of the time you have.
Gloria:
Make the most of what you enjoy doing without hurting others. Let go and forgive, even if you don’t forget.
by Barbara | Feb 3, 2015 | Celebrating Life, Relationships, The Remarkable Files
Meet Melissa, a remarkable young woman. Melissa has had her fair share of challenges and 2014 was particularly difficult. She was faced with making some heart wrenching decisions that would change her life forever. This is Melissa’s story and she’s sharing it with us, hoping to inspire others who may face challenges too.
What’s your background?
I left school at 15, having not completed year 10. I started working for a health insurance company, scanning cheques and sorting mail. 11 years have passed (I am now 26), and my motivation and drive for success never faltered. I studied during the evening and proved myself through my work during the day. I am now an IT and Change Professional working as a Consultant in the Oil and Gas industry. I have also had the opportunity to travel the world, purchase properties and enjoy some of the other aspects of life that make me happy, including writing, volunteering with wildlife and competing in triathlons.
Until recently, I couldn’t say that I was successful in all aspects of my life. The most challenging journey for me was being a partner and then wife in an incompatible relationship. After a couple of years of self-doubt and increasing levels of darkness and despair, I listened to my heart and decided to stay true to my philosophy of life. I challenged myself to take the biggest leap of faith I could imagine. It is important to note that I would not have changed a thing about my past, for this part of my life has allowed me to grow so much as a person and has enabled me to overcome my greatest challenges.
You took a leap of faith. Did you ever wonder if you were doing the right thing?
I’ve taken two leaps of faith! One in search of happiness, and one to firmly cement my journey to success, happiness and fulfilment.
When I took my first leap of faith, I was not just leaving an unhappy marriage, I was leaping into the unknown. Society has written a checklist dictating that I should find a man, get married and settle down. I was throwing the checklist away, not knowing whether I would find someone to share my life with.
The discussion I had with myself went something like this:
You can choose to live a life of mediocrity and tick boxes. You can compromise and choose to make another person happy. You can do what society says is acceptable. This is an easy option. Your other option is to seek true happiness and fulfillment by unshackling the chains holding you down and forcing you into a life that won’t be lived for you. You can choose to find happiness and fulfillment within yourself, and choose the right path for you. You can write your own checklist and rip up the one that had been handed to you. What do you choose?’
I chose Life. Life then gave me the gift of someone that is brave enough to dream with me and walk along the same path, hand in hand.
Throughout the separation, I never questioned whether I was doing the right thing for me. From the moment I packed up my car and left with only my most important things, I knew that this was the path I needed to walk. Where I struggled was whether it was the right thing for him, I chose to be alone, but I left him alone. One day I truly hope that he too finds his kindred spirit and he can live the life that he always wanted for himself.
That brings me to the second leap of faith I am about to take! I am about to embark on a journey that will see my partner Clint and I pursuing our dream to live a life on the land, respecting her through organic (and biodynamic) crop and vineyard development. We are going to set up a sustainable and thriving business in the country, an environment that will see our future children and family thrive. What I risk is losing all that I have built financially and having to re-build from scratch. Why are we doing this? Because this is our dream. Only we can challenge ourselves to pursue it.
The Journey:
How did you make it happen?
There was a final tipping point, that one day where I just could not take it anymore. What led to that moment, the moment when I walked through the front door in tears, telling him that I was unhappy and I needed to leave, was a slow decline in happiness over a couple of years. I planned on leaving a number of times, but I always found a reason to hold back. I thought about his feelings, our finances, what I would do with no future certainty. I kept thinking that I could fix this, there was a problem with me and I had to fix it. I even tried bringing a fur baby (a kitten) into our lives, to give us something to bond over, and something to keep me happy at home. It didn’t work.
How did I make it happen? It was not about following a plan, it was about accepting that this is just the way it has to be. It was accepting that there wasn’t a problem with me mentally – sometimes things just don’t work out the way you planned it, despite your best efforts. This acceptance gave me the strength that I needed to take that next step.
What was your biggest challenge and what have you learnt along the way?
My biggest challenge was the internal battle that I was having with myself. I was battling what I should be doing versus what my heart was telling me I needed to do. Seems simple in theory but listening to my heart was the key to overcoming this battle.
With the marriage break down, it was initially the fear of the unknown. I had a path set before me which I was planning on ripping up, in place of something completely unknown.
The decision was not made lightly as there is nothing I dislike more than causing unhappiness for others, especially in order to achieve happiness for myself. For a long time I thought that I would be far too selfish if I chose to leave. It was later that I realized that we would both never be happy if I stayed. By leaving, I had given us both a chance of truly being happy.
The biggest thing that I have learnt is ensuring that I stay true to who I am and what is important to me. You can try and compromise for others, but the inner you will escape one way or the other. Once I accepted and embraced the inner me – warts and all – I started asking the right questions about what I truly want out of life. I first had to identify what I was truly passionate about before I could embrace it and allow it to keep me on the right path.
By enduring through these dark times, I am now truly able to appreciate all the beautiful things in my life. Through knowing darkness, I can truly soak up the light. I am also pleased to advise that I am now in a perfectly compatible relationship with Clint. 
Who is your role model and why?
I don’t have one role model but draw little bits of inspiration from all the beautiful people who have changed my life and the world.
The first true leader that I worked for, Pep, had many challenges as he rose into leadership. He not only gave me enough confidence to believe in myself and set me up for career success, he inspired me with his career journey.
When it comes to achieving great things, it is hard for me to look past Richard Branson. He rose from humble beginnings, was not afraid to pursue his dream, and would not think twice about risking it all for something he truly believes in.
It is not only the grand and great things that matter, but enjoying and appreciating the beauty that comes from the smallest things. My sister taught me to live and love every moment.
My most important role model is my love and partner in crime, Clint. He has challenged me to dream big and will ultimately drive me to ensuring that we achieve our dreams. 
How has pursuing your passions changed your life?
For the first time, I truly feel like I have reason and purpose. I think big. I do not listen to ‘can’t’ but instead ask ‘how can I?’ I do not dwell on things or feel sorry for myself. I ask myself what is throwing me off balance, or holding me back from my goals, and I correct it.
My life is not just another convergence of atoms, which worked together to create consciousness, which will later dissipate and reform. My life is a gift and I will leave my mark on the world by staying true to my values and building something beautiful.
What’s next for you? What does the future hold?
The immediate future holds a puppy, a farm, a “tree change” and a new business. We are very excited about starting our organic vineyard and truffiere in the beautiful South West of WA. Our future sees us continuing a beautiful journey to achieving success and fulfillment. We are not looking forward to the end of the road, but savoring every amazing moment of the journey.
Wisdom for others:
What advice would you give anyone who dreams of following their passion?
Challenge them to ask a similar question that I asked myself:
‘You can choose to live a life of mediocrity and tick boxes. You can compromise. You can choose the easy option. Your other option is to challenge yourself to seek true happiness and fulfillment by chasing your dreams. What do you choose?’
Ask yourself, ‘What’s the worst that could happen?’ You will end up in the same position that you are in now perhaps? You need to rebuild? Well you built yourself up to this point once and I am sure you could do it again if necessary; however it won’t be necessary to re-build. It won’t be necessary because with enough passion, drive and determination, you can achieve anything!
How do you think each of us can live the fullest life possible?
No more excuses, no more easy ways out, no more blaming others. You are the master of your own destiny. Challenge yourself to seek out what you are passionate about, dare to dream, then embrace it and live it! Don’t be afraid to fight for it, for nothing handed to you is earned, the harder you fight, the greater the reward.
A Bit of Fun:
Happiest place:
Walking up a row of vines and turning around to see a look of freedom, contentment, passion and the thrill of the challenge rush through my partner’s eyes. I saw a dream in the making.
Biggest passion in life:
I am passionate about living a life filled with adventure, challenge and excitement. I am passionate about sustainable and healthy living and, most of all, I am passionate about living my life with – and being constantly challenged by – Clint, my partner.
Best bit of advice you have ever received:
The most important thing is happiness. (“Thanks Dad”). I’ve added to this by stating that success is happiness, fulfillment is success, and happiness paves the path to fulfillment.
Most inspiring film you’ve seen:
Unfortunately I don’t tend to watch films that are terribly inspiring. That’s a good challenge to me… Seek one out by visiting an art house cinema on occasion.
Most inspiring book you’ve read:
Paul Coelho, The Alchemist. Like a piece of art, there are many perceptions of truth as to the true meaning behind what was written. I read this book at the beginning of my journey of rediscovering myself. Turned out my treasure was just a message away, but the journey I embarked on was pivotal in order for me to appreciate the gold waiting for me around the corner.
Best light-bulb moment:
The realization that no matter how hard you work for an organization, you are just a number and you mean nothing in the scheme of things. You can leave an organization and be missed for a day but your friends and family will love you always. Being made redundant from an organization that had me earmarked as tomorrow’s leader solidified my desire to set up my own family business and to ensure that I have all of my priorities in the right order.
Anything is possible… what’s your wish?
I wish to be successful in building my dream of developing a successful winery and a sustainable, healthy and wealthy lifestyle for my family. To me, nothing that is handed to you is earned, so I do wish for the journey and challenges that I will be faced with and then, ultimately, to earn enough money, in order for me to pursue my other dream. A dream of being able to rescue abused and exploited animals across Asia, Africa and South America, in order to provide them with quality care and a home. I would then seek to develop a program that would enable me to release as many wild animals back to their real homes as possible. I could wish for something grander, but I believe that a real wish is one that I can make a reality.
Philosophy you live by:
Plan for tomorrow but live for today. Don’t plant a flower just for you; plant a tree so that all the beautiful people around you can bask under the shade of the canopy. Always stay true and honest and never compromise your values or who you are.
Quote you live by:
Over the next few years, we aim to establish our organic vineyard and build a sustainable self-sufficient lifestyle that respects the land. An old Indian Proverb, which I first read in my early primary school years, will be a quote that I live by:
When the Last Tree is Cut Down,
The Last Fish Eaten
And the Last Stream Poisoned,
You will Realize that you
Cannot Eat Money.
by Barbara | Jan 28, 2015 | Cycling, Fitness, The Remarkable Files, The Rove
Meet Rhode, a remarkable man who has turned his passion for cycling into an annual community event with many enthusiastic participants. This is the tale of how Rhode’s love of long rides developed into “the rove”. Be inspired as you read Rhode’s story – great things can be achieved when you pursue simple passions that make you happy.
Tell us about the Rove…… how did it all come about?
I started riding with Bike Force Joondalup some 6 years ago and met a group of like-minded folk, one of which was John. He is always one to push himself and that rubs off on others, we started doing longer and longer rides, my nice and easy 20km became 50, then 100 etc. Initially these were called Rhode’s Roves.
John had, from memory, done a few rides to and from Bunbury over the years and he came up with the concept. The Co2 (Committee of Two and a play on the “compressed air canisters” carried by cyclists) was established – John and myself. We embarked together on a one way ride to Bunbury and such was the birth of the Bunbury Rove – a 200km ride. That was December 2009 and I think we had 13 cyclists.
Since then both the name has been shorted to “the rove” (lower case) and the rides lengthened to a maximum of 500km over two days and in 2014 the number of riders was close to 70. This year will be the 6th year. Other than the Bunbury ride we have a One Day Classic from Bullsbrook to Toodyay and return.
We aim to have another two events in 2015 – one of which will be a rove team in the Delirium 24 hour event in March.
The Rove 2012
What’s the philosophy behind it?
The tagline speaks for itself “re-define your limits”. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and surprise yourself with what can be achieved.
What’s your background?
Just hit the big half-century, an immigrant from South Africa. Married to Leslie with a 17 year old son, Michael. A banker / finance guy who found he enjoyed cycling and the company of great people dressed in lycra.
Rhode, Leslie and Michael
What’s your secret to ‘making time’ for cycling and organizing the Rove?
John does a heck of a lot of work on it and designed the rove kit we now use each year, and those fine coffee mugs (see above – stock still available), as well as the website and runs the books. I deal with the front end – registrations, payments, nodding my approval of John’s great work. It does take a bit of time but we have help from an expanded Co2 to Co3 or 4 and each year we learn from our mistakes and improve the process.
What does a typical day look like for you?
Work / eat / sleep / repeat. I normally wake up at 5.30. If I am riding I will get up and leave home at around 6.15 and 6.45 for either a BFJ ride or a commute to work in town. I normally get home no later than 6.30Pm, have dinner with the family, watch TV, and walk the dog. All nice, quiet mid-life activities.
You took a leap of faith… Did you ever wonder if you were doing the right thing?
I was concerned last year with the number of riders, many of whom I did not know from other clubs. It does make the logistics harder and more time consuming, and to be honest I thought it was time for a break from being an organizer. But after the event (the leg down in terrible weather) I saw the sense of achievement, the satisfaction, smiles and camaraderie, and the appreciation / gratitude of the riders. It was a fantastic feeling for both John and myself. It makes the time and effort all worth it and I will continue to be a member of the Co2 for a while yet.
The Journey
What was your biggest challenge and how did you overcome it?
The weather has always been an issue, one that we cannot control but have learnt to work with. The first ride was too late in the year and therefore too hot. The second was earlier but still too windy. We soon hit on early September as the best time and have stuck with that. The rain is the rain. Last year was the first wet ride and that made it even more interesting and challenging.
Logistically, getting drivers for support vehicles, with the patience to drive at 30kph, is the main issue every year. But it always works itself out at the end of the day. My wife, Leslie, has done it every year and a few others (Bruce C) have done a good number of them. Without them the event cannot take place.We have also secured the support of a number of financial sponsors, most of whom ride with us, and this reduces the cost to the riders. We are most definitely a Not for Profit organisation.
We have also secured the support of a number of financial sponsors, most of whom ride with us, and this reduces the cost to the riders. We are most definitely a Not for Profit organisation.
The next step, starting this year, is to link a suitable and worthwhile charity to the therove allowing others the benefit and not only the participants. Our goal is to become a substantial donor over the next few years.
What are the tough parts of cycling long distances and setting up the Rove?
The distance comes with training and being prepared with nutrition, diet, support etc. The most difficult part is the mind – convincing yourself that you can ride that far (assuming you want to ride that far). A tube of good quality butt cream is a great help.
Can you give us some examples of when you’ve had to dig deep and be brave?
When I asked Les to marry me? Making the decision to leave South Africa for the sake of my wife and son, and leave my parents and sister behind. Both, by the Grace of God, have turned out to be the best decisions I have made.
Who is your role model and why?
Nelson Mandela
I have never modelled myself on others. Your talents and goals are yours, and mine are mine. I admire the courage of a soldier who, at the sound of a whistle, went over the top to near certain death. Margaret Thatcher – who took no crap from anybody. Bill Clinton – just because he is Bill Clinton. Of course Mandela – a spirit of forgiveness and a very, very wise man who understood what impact he had and what could have happened if he took a different stance when released.
How has pursuing cycling and the Rove changed your life?
I am fitter and healthier than I have been since the mid 80’s. I have made great mates and it gets me up and out in the morning. The rove is going to grow into something bigger and bigger and the desired goal is to support a charity or two, so that both the participants and those in trouble (of whatever sort) benefit.
I have learnt:
- Patience, patience and patience.
- That if you spend enough time at something you can become pretty good at it. I will never be first across the line but that’s not important. Sharing the experience with your nearest and dearest is what counts.
Wisdom for others:
What’s the secret of your success?
By what measure am I successful? I have a loving family, good friends, a healthy mind and body. All of which comes without chasing the mighty $$. Success is in the eye of the beholder. And it’s easy – just do what your mother told you – play nice and be kind to others.
What’s next for you? What does the future hold?
Work & have fun, retire & have more fun, cycle as long as possible.
What advice would you give anyone who dreams of pursuing cycling?
Borrow a mates bike, ride it for a few months. If you enjoy cycling, buy the best bike you can afford. And more importantly the best nicks possible – your butt will thank you. Some guys can be brilliant riders seemingly overnight. For the masses it takes time and kilometers. And just enjoy it, whether you do 10km or 100km on a Saturday morning. But do push yourself at least a tiny bit – you will be surprised by what you can do on two wheels.
What advice would you give anyone who isn’t doing what they love?
Move on. Get out of the rut. Find something that adds value to your life and change whatever you can without hurting others.
How do you think each of us can live the fullest life possible?
Don’t be selfish, think of others and do for others. One day we leave everything behind. Make sure the legacy and love you leave is what people remember – not the house or car.
Rhode and Leslie at the Lost City
Leslie and Michael
Favourite Quote:
And remember
The truth that once was spoken,
To love another person
Is to see the face of God.
Final Lyrics from Les Miserables
Happiest places:
- On the bike (when the wind is not blowing a gale) and the coffee shop after a ride;
- Dinner table (not a restaurant) with good mates, good food & good wine;
- Anywhere I can have a white Christmas.
Biggest passion in life:
To try and be a good father to Michael, and of course cycling.
Most inspiring film you’ve seen:
Two will always stick in my mind – Gandhi and Amadeus.
Most inspiring book you’ve read:
Who Moved the Stone – changed my life many years ago.
Best light-bulb moment:
That getting married to Les would be a very good thing to do.
Anything is possible… what’s your wish?
Without wanting to sound like a Miss Universe contestant, the eradication of poverty and the suffering of children – anywhere and everywhere.
the rove 2014
